177 - How To control Yourself Around Foods That Taste So Good

[00:00:00] Maggie: I'm[00:00:10]

[00:00:15] Ryan: back for the third week in a row.

[00:00:17] Maggie: Whoa. Maybe. Are you going to be a regular [00:00:20] again?

[00:00:20] Ryan: No.

[00:00:22] Maggie: No. Probably next week. It'll be me on my own.

[00:00:25] Ryan: Yeah.

[00:00:26] Maggie: Well, let's party. Okay. I'm just, I'm feeling good and I'm feeling good cause I'm, [00:00:30] I'm like only 7 percent sick still. So like, I'm like ready to party. I'm ready to podcast.

[00:00:35] Maggie: I'm ready to talk about what to do when food [00:00:40] tastes so good.

[00:00:41] Ryan: How to control yourself? Uh, it's, it's a good question. How do you control yourself around birthday cake, around crumble [00:00:50] cookie? How do you stick to your goals? How do you stop eating it? How do you eat an adequate amount? How do you, Be [00:01:00] intentional with the amount you want to eat and follow through with those intentions.

[00:01:04] Ryan: You know what I mean?

[00:01:04] Maggie: Do you want me to answer all the questions? Yeah. One. You can just go through. Um, yeah, I [00:01:10] think, I think it's rough. I just, I just did a Q& A podcast for Vibe Club and that was one of the questions. It's like, how do you stop at enough when it tastes so good? [00:01:20] And I think there's a lot of different, different, I don't know, things to say about that.

[00:01:25] Maggie: I think we should start though with like, what's the problem? With like, why [00:01:30] aren't people stopping? Because I have, I have some feelings about that and I'm gonna tell you what they are. I feel like it's normal for [00:01:40] us, for us not to want to stop eating food that's good, but that is on like hyper drive when we never let ourselves eat things that are good.

[00:01:48] Maggie: So I feel like that's like the first [00:01:50] aspect is like if eating good things is like so sparse and like it's sprinkled like you get good things two times a month because everyone knows if you're losing weight [00:02:00] you have to eat stuff that doesn't taste good and so like those moments where you are eating something that's so good you feel like I don't want this to end.

[00:02:09] Ryan: Okay, [00:02:10] so, so solution one is allow yourself to eat it more. But what if I do that and I'm not successful at stopping at enough or controlling myself?

[00:02:18] Maggie: Well, what I think is interesting [00:02:20] is like, why would you be good at stopping yourself or controlling yourself if like, it, if, if the only experience you have with those foods is overeating them, and that's just a necessary evil of part of this process.

[00:02:29] Maggie: It's like. [00:02:30] You're, you're gonna start eating foods intentionally that you haven't eaten for a really long time and every time you've ever eaten this food, you've overeaten it. I would say like that was the truth for me when I was, [00:02:40] you know, um, like having issues with binge eating and overeating. It was like, I was never eating something in a reasonable amount.

[00:02:46] Maggie: I was always eating. Anything I, I was always [00:02:50] overeating anything I was eating because I didn't know how to eat any other way. That's why I was overweight. I was always overeating. But to expect that you're like, and now I'm going to plan the cake and it's going to be all I had to do [00:03:00] was just choose to eat it.

[00:03:01] Maggie: You're not going to know how to. So you can't use that as a sign that there's like a problem. It just, I was just talking about this. It's like a muscle. [00:03:10] And your muscle, it doesn't exist. It's a very weak, unused muscle. And the more that you practice, the stronger it gets. And the less that you practice, the weaker it gets.

[00:03:18] Maggie: And that's just the way that [00:03:20] I see all of the skills that I teach people. It's like, why would you know how to eat those foods in moderation? You've never given yourself time to actually practice doing that. So I think that's one aspect. That's one [00:03:30] aspect of, I can't stop eating because it tastes so good.

[00:03:32] Maggie: And that's just because of the scarcity mindset that kicks in when your brain is like, we don't know when we're going to get this again. And that is [00:03:40] scary. And so we must over consume because we got to like, you know, we got to have something to get us to the next time because you're not going to let us have this for a long time.[00:03:50]

[00:03:50] Ryan: Step two, set your expectations.

[00:03:53] Maggie: Of what it's going to look like to, yeah.

[00:03:56] Ryan: Right?

[00:03:57] Maggie: Yeah.

[00:03:58] Ryan: Because if you don't set your expectations [00:04:00] correctly, you think you're just going to Well, you'll

[00:04:02] Maggie: use any overeat as an excuse of like, see? Yeah, doesn't

[00:04:05] Ryan: work.

[00:04:06] Maggie: And I relate to that. I knew it wasn't going to work. So what should the

[00:04:08] Ryan: expectations be?

[00:04:09] Maggie: The [00:04:10] expectation should be that it's going to take time to figure out how to eat it.

[00:04:13] Ryan: How much time do you think?

[00:04:14] Maggie: How much time do you think? It's going to be different for every person. Some people plan it. I have clients all the time who plan it and [00:04:20] they're like, it worked. Yeah. And then maybe it just worked that first time because it was really intentional and whatever.

[00:04:25] Maggie: And maybe they do it in a way where it's a little less intentional and they're just kind of like, I kind of made a basic [00:04:30] plan and I didn't really pay attention while I was eating and I kind of like, checked out and I kind of got all that pleasure from the food. Then, and I overate it. Oh no. You know, like, it's just, it's, it's.

[00:04:39] Maggie: The [00:04:40] process is going to be like two steps forward, one step back, maybe three steps back, four steps forward, it's just kind of all over the place, but really what's happening when you're learning to eat those foods is you are like creating [00:04:50] safety around those foods. You're making your body and brain know nobody's taking these foods away, we don't need to overeat it because you can have it again.

[00:04:57] Maggie: And our brain, in most of our current states, is like, [00:05:00] We can't have this again. We shouldn't even be eating it now. Best to just eat this and while we're at it, everything else we never let ourselves have because we got to get back to strict.

[00:05:09] Ryan: Yeah, I think it depends on the [00:05:10] person. It could take weeks or it could take months, but I, I think you'll know when you're making progress when you feel that sense of urgency to eat that food go down.

[00:05:18] Maggie: Yes. Where you don't [00:05:20] feel so. Pay attention to how you feel in your body, you guys, seriously, before, during, and after you eat these foods. Because if you're sitting down to eat them, and your body is flooded with stress hormones, it's not going to be a good experience, and [00:05:30] you're going to eat to regulate that.

[00:05:31] Maggie: You're going to eat to bring it back down. When you sit down and you're panicked, and you're like, I don't know if I should be doing this, and like, you're just pumping cortisol and adrenaline through your body. [00:05:40] It's not going to create a nice peaceful relationship, it's going to drive that, you're going to be eating with that feeling of danger in your body because you believe that you're doing something that's like going against your goals [00:05:50] and going against what you want and going against the rules and it's going to feel dangerous.

[00:05:53] Maggie: So ultimately you'll see that desire to go down once you actually feel true safety around like, first of all, this is an inanimate [00:06:00] object, like, the body. Cupcakes aren't dangerous to me. Cupcakes aren't a trigger to me. They're just cupcakes and that you'll see the desire go down as the permission increases and [00:06:10] the safety you feel around those foods where they don't feel like they're, you know, people are like, Oh, they were yelling at me.

[00:06:16] Maggie: They were, I had clients describe it to me all the time. They're like, I don't know. [00:06:20] They were just telling me to eat them. And like, like these cupcakes have a mind of their own. They don't, they're just cupcakes. Well, we have a lot of thoughts about the cupcakes. Okay. The other thing I want to say [00:06:30] is that.

[00:06:31] Maggie: There is nothing wrong with your brain if it wants to eat pleasurable things. This is something I had to tell myself a long time ago. It was when I was [00:06:40] specifically keto, and I still love ChocZero. I love all their stuff. But they're like sugar free treats, and there was a point where like I could not eat less than four of the keto barks.

[00:06:48] Ryan: I remember. Do you? Because I, [00:06:50] it was

[00:06:50] Maggie: like, it was a while ago. It was like 2018 maybe. Because I remember sitting on the couch and being like, yo. What is wrong with me? Why can't I? And it's just because my brain believed that if [00:07:00] one chock zero is good, four chock zeros is obviously four times better than one.

[00:07:06] Maggie: And so I had to get to a point where I was like, my brain's going to want [00:07:10] more. And like that has to be okay. It has to be okay. We have to get more comfortable allowing desire to be there without feeling like it's a, it's a need that must be answered [00:07:20] immediately. And yeah, that does take some self control and is another muscle you have to build up.

[00:07:24] Maggie: But like, It's nothing has gone wrong if you eat the cake and your brain says, [00:07:30] yum, more cake. That's like your brain's job. It is dopamine seeking. It is trying to get that pleasure. And you have to be okay saying, some is good, more doesn't make it better. [00:07:40] That was a pleasurable experience. We are going to take it to a level where it no longer becomes pleasurable because I'm going to be sick.

[00:07:47] Maggie: I'm not going to ruin this experience, and that's what we do. Our [00:07:50] brain is just like, Mmm, if something's good, more is better. Eat as much as you can. I think we have to normalize desire being there and not answering it. We don't, [00:08:00] we don't.

[00:08:00] Ryan: It's hard though.

[00:08:01] Maggie: Yeah, of course it is. But it gets easier the more you're like, This makes sense because what most people want is you want to not want it.[00:08:10]

[00:08:11] Maggie: That's, that's everyone's ideal situation. I want to not want pizza. I want to not want chocolate. And that would make my life easier. But you're gonna want it. And if you eat it, you're [00:08:20] probably going to want it more. And we have to be realistic about that. You know how we were talking last week about certain foods will make you want to eat more and like that kind of stuff.

[00:08:28] Maggie: Yeah. Sometimes [00:08:30] when I eat something, I know that what I'm signing up for, like, isn't my ideal life. You know what I mean? It isn't my ideal way of feeling. It's not my ideal way of my digestion working. It's not, but it doesn't [00:08:40] mean I'm not going to eat it. I'm still going to eat it, but I'm not going to eat it as often.

[00:08:43] Maggie: It's like, it's just knowing certain foods will make you feel certain ways. And for sure there's food that you're going to eat that your brain is going to be [00:08:50] like more until we can't eat another bite. Can you get more comfortable allowing a desire to be there without answering it? And think about [00:09:00] how many desires you have throughout the day that aren't immediately.

[00:09:04] Maggie: You know, you want to punch your boss in the face, you want to, like, there's just stuff that you want to do that you're like, I want to scream at that [00:09:10] person in the grocery store. Not going to do that. I have a big urge to do it. There's a desire there, but I'm going to leave that desire unanswered. And what's funny is, assuming you're [00:09:20] allowing yourself to have that food, you got the food.

[00:09:23] Maggie: What we're arguing for is more of it. So I like to just tell my brain, we got it. It was good. We can let it [00:09:30] have just been good and know that we can eat it again, but it's getting into that middle space where we're like, yeah, but more isn't better. That's not going to make this a more pleasurable experience.

[00:09:39] Maggie: In fact, in [00:09:40] my experience, if you actually pay attention to your food, there does, you do get to a point where you're like, it's just not, it's not even really good anymore. Hi guys, I wanted to let you know [00:09:50] real quick about a free mini course that I just launched and it is called Diet Rehab. If you are tired of dieting and can't seem to stick to anything long term, and you're over that [00:10:00] restrict and overeat cycle, this course is going to help you get on the right path.

[00:10:03] Maggie: It covers how to start making a plan in advance so that you can eat foods you love while honoring the commitments you made to [00:10:10] yourself. It will help you start taking action toward the process I teach for weight loss and food freedom, because you do not need to start another fad diet. All you do need to do is begin the process of [00:10:20] learning how to stop emotionally overeating.

[00:10:22] Maggie: There is no magic in a special type of food or diet, but there is magic in listening to your body and solving the root problem of why you're overweight. [00:10:30] The link is in the show notes or you can go to the link in my bio on social media.

[00:10:34] Ryan: Yeah, it's true. You really do have to accept the fact that you're going to have to allow a [00:10:40] desire to be there at some point.

[00:10:41] Maggie: Well, and you always, I know you, you play devil's advocate a lot on this podcast, and that's fine. I appreciate it. The people appreciate it. But sometimes like when we're like, [00:10:50] but that's hard, you know, like, but that's hard. Some things are hard, you know, and like, we have to be okay with, yeah, this is, it's challenging.[00:11:00]

[00:11:00] Maggie: But can we not make it harder? Can we not make it harder on ourselves by being like, this is so annoying, I, I wish I didn't want this, and like fighting what is happening in our brain, which is just like, my [00:11:10] brain wants more. I want it even more. Yeah, so how do we not make

[00:11:12] Ryan: it harder then?

[00:11:13] Maggie: We don't make it harder by piling on the drama.

[00:11:17] Maggie: I mean, all that comes down to is continuing to [00:11:20] eat, continuing to make it this big story, continuing to say, see, I knew that I had no control. I'm addicted to this. I need to get rid of it completely versus like, when I eat this food, I want more [00:11:30] of it. So the next time I plan this food, I'm going to know I'm going to want more of it.

[00:11:33] Maggie: I'm going to eat it. I'm going to finish what I planned and my brain is going to say, eat more. And I know that because that's what [00:11:40] brains do. And that's what my brain does when I eat this food. Know that when you eat that food, that is kind of what you're agreeing to. And then you know what? To be honest, is that worth it?

[00:11:49] Maggie: Sometimes [00:11:50] it's not. I'll tell you something. I was in Costco yesterday. I love their s'mores mix.

[00:11:55] Ryan: I'm so glad you didn't buy it. I

[00:11:56] Maggie: didn't look for it. I know it's there. And [00:12:00] I'm glad this is coming up in this podcast because I have the thought. It's just not worth it to me to have that in my house. Can I plan it?

[00:12:07] Maggie: Yeah. Yes. Is it something I like to eat [00:12:10] with abandon? Also yes. I don't love to eat it to enough. I love to eat it to I can't eat this anymore.

[00:12:17] Ryan: Yeah.

[00:12:18] Maggie: So, and I, [00:12:20] I'm just wondering sometimes I have a hard time being in my brain being like how are people going to spin this in a funky way? But I really truly mean asking yourself, like, not from a diet eat.[00:12:30]

[00:12:30] Maggie: mindset. But from like a healthy mindset of, is it worth it to me? Do I, would I like to do the mental work on this item of food? Yeah. And sometimes the answer is no, and that's not a [00:12:40] problem. And that's not diet mentality. I could eat that. I don't want to do s'mores mix brain drama right now.[00:12:50]

[00:12:51] Ryan: I don't ever want to.

[00:12:53] Maggie: It's so good. But it and I'll tell you, there aren't many things like this for me. And maybe there I think there were in the past, [00:13:00] but this is one of those things where I'm like, I shit you not. I do not feel like I can ever eat enough of it.

[00:13:04] Ryan: Listen, it's the There's the the texture science right now the texture of it.

[00:13:09] Ryan: It's a [00:13:10] chocolate wrapped Um chocolate dunked, uh graham cracker and marshmallow

[00:13:15] Maggie: And sometimes it's a cluster and has all three it

[00:13:17] Ryan: dumps just way too much dopamine into my brain But there's

[00:13:19] Maggie: [00:13:20] no I don't feel like there's a satisfaction switch that gets

[00:13:23] Ryan: yeah. Do you

[00:13:24] Maggie: agree with me? I can't think of two Too many things like that and I'm sure there will be some people that are like that's everything for me.

[00:13:29] Maggie: I, I'm sure I [00:13:30] believe, I did believe that as well too. I would have told you that about Doritos. I cannot stop. Yeah. I believe that I'm just, it's not work I want to do right now. And I don't feel any guilt or shame about [00:13:40] that. I get to choose if I have it in my house and I will have it in my house because we're moving into s'mores season as you all know.

[00:13:45] Maggie: Okay. I know it's only not even April. That

[00:13:47] Ryan: is the dumbest, the dumbest seasons. [00:13:50]

[00:13:50] Maggie: S'mores season, shoulder season. It's all coming and I will be, I will be eating it, but we're at the end of March right now. It's not quite s'mores season yet. And I just feel like [00:14:00] that's just one of those things I don't want to have in my house.

[00:14:02] Maggie: And I want you to know that if that's you and there are just certain things that you're like, I don't want to do brain drama work. I don't want to do thought work [00:14:10] on s'mores mix, that that's okay.

[00:14:12] Ryan: You have to know what you're signing up for.

[00:14:13] Maggie: Yeah. And also know like what your limits are. Right. Like. We've talked about people like being like food freedom now.

[00:14:19] Maggie: I'm gonna go to the [00:14:20] store and order I'm gonna buy everything. I never let myself happen. That's a lot That's a flood like you're flooding your system with all the options versus what I recommend Which is like let's choose one meal [00:14:30] one time a week and like let's really like be there for that Let's choose one item one time a week.

[00:14:34] Maggie: Let's just start it because we all have this dieting history But when it comes to things tasting so good, I get the feeling, [00:14:40] I know how that is with s'mores mix. I do not feel like there's a satiation switch ever. I don't feel like I could ever eat that too enough. It always feels like I'm stopping too soon when I stop eating it.

[00:14:49] Maggie: I think people are going [00:14:50] to

[00:14:50] Ryan: appreciate you talking about this. Okay,

[00:14:51] Maggie: good. Because I, I don't want it to feel like something's wrong with you if you just can't have anything in your presence. Because the truth is, I could have it in my presence, [00:15:00] and every time I'd walk into my pantry, I would see it, and I would have thoughts trigger about it, and I would have to decide, like, are we gonna have it?

[00:15:07] Maggie: Are we not? Knowing my relationship with [00:15:10] that food is, it never really feels like enough, so to eat it almost feels more torturous than pleasurable. It feels more like I'm signing myself up for something that never [00:15:20] has, like, a end point, and instead makes me want more to the point where I'm like, it's just not, I just don't want to do it right now.

[00:15:26] Maggie: There's

[00:15:26] Ryan: more drama for you to eat it than to just not eat it.

[00:15:29] Maggie: Yes. [00:15:30] Yeah. And for a lot of people, you have a ton of drama from not eating something.

[00:15:33] Ryan: Yeah. And

[00:15:34] Maggie: it'll cause you to overeat it. To me, I've just, I've had it in my house. I've eaten it on purpose. I've eaten it not on purpose. Like, [00:15:40] right? Like I've eaten it when I've just had a bad day and my hand will just go in there six times.

[00:15:45] Maggie: All of a sudden it's like, this is 18 servings. Cause I ate it in how many days? And the math is not nothing. [00:15:50] And, and I get to decide, is this something I want to have in my house? And to Be honest with you guys. The answer is yes. Not now though. And I, when I get it, I know what I'm signing up for. [00:16:00] I know that it'll never feel like enough and I'm okay with that.

[00:16:02] Maggie: That is one of those foods that my brain is like, this is so good. Don't ever stop. And I feel like it dissolves the second it gets in my mouth. It doesn't go into my stomach. It [00:16:10] doesn't send signals to my brain. They have something in there that bypasses all of the whole bag in one sitting. I know.

[00:16:15] Ryan: So easily.

[00:16:15] Ryan: And

[00:16:16] Maggie: it also like, when I overeat it, it does, it does not make me feel good. So it's just, [00:16:20] it is what it is. That's just a prime example of a thing just yesterday where I was like, probably have it. I could get it. I just don't want to do that right now. And there wasn't much [00:16:30] drama about it. And like Ryan said, there would have been more drama bringing it in.

[00:16:33] Maggie: So

[00:16:34] Ryan: it is what it is. It's a really good example.

[00:16:35] Maggie: But, but I want you guys to hear me not saying, [00:16:40] It's drama for me, so I'm never gonna have it again. And that's what I think a lot of people do. They don't, they tell themselves they can't have it. And I just, I'm just realistic with myself. I'm like, you're gonna want [00:16:50] all of that.

[00:16:50] Ryan: You're just managing your capacity to deal with drama.

[00:16:54] Maggie: And knowing I'm inviting it in.

[00:16:55] Ryan: Yeah.

[00:16:56] Maggie: And, and sometimes, I'm not going to lie to you, that shit is worth it. Like, it is [00:17:00] worth the drama. And I'll take the drama. I don't care. But I know what I'm signing up for. And like, sometimes the answer is yes, and sometimes it's no.

[00:17:06] Maggie: And I just want to be honest with you guys that like, sometimes I eat [00:17:10] foods that we would consider fun foods. Some people would con trigger, con Some people would consider trigger foods. But I eat them [00:17:20] and I don't have fun. They aren't fun. They don't make my body feel fun things. That doesn't mean I'm never going to eat them again.

[00:17:26] Maggie: I will eat them again. Just the frequency gets reduced. So [00:17:30] fun foods aren't always going to be just like dopamine and pleasure and like, oh my gosh, I love this. So this was such an amazing experience. Sometimes you'll eat it and be like, yep, now I remember [00:17:40] why I don't eat that very often. That is not.

[00:17:41] Ryan: It's kind of my experience with alcohol right now.

[00:17:44] Maggie: That's why I don't drink anymore.

[00:17:47] Ryan: I, it's really like. A [00:17:50] weighing of, of, of sorts, like, is this really One

[00:17:54] Maggie: hour of pleasure, 24 hours of pain.

[00:17:57] Ryan: Is this really worth it?

[00:17:59] Maggie: I mean, we don't [00:18:00] know if it's just because we're getting old or what.

[00:18:02] Ryan: You know, it's really like getting to the point where it's just not even worth it anymore.

[00:18:05] Maggie: Yeah.

[00:18:06] Ryan: It messes up my sleep so much, makes me feel so bad [00:18:10] the next day.

[00:18:10] Maggie: Grumpy. Does it make you more hungry at all? It's like, why am

[00:18:13] Ryan: I doing this? Why are you

[00:18:15] Maggie: doing it? What does your brain tell you in the moment that justifies it?

[00:18:18] Ryan: In the moment? That

[00:18:19] Maggie: says, let's get a [00:18:20] drink.

[00:18:21] Ryan: Just to relax and enjoy the moment?

[00:18:23] Maggie: Yeah. And that's so funny because it's like, you do get to relax and enjoy it at the moment. It's just a very short moment. And sometimes what we're trading is [00:18:30] like, the trade just does not make sense. Okay. I can't, I can't think, I'm trying to think there were just a couple points I wanted to make about like, it is okay for your brain to want [00:18:40] more.

[00:18:40] Maggie: Stop being mad about that. Why don't you start being realistic of like, here are a list of foods that I do love, but at the same time, like, they create a lot of drama for me. And [00:18:50] I need to know when I eat it, my brain is going to want more. Do I want to deal with that? Do I want to have that conversation?

[00:18:56] Maggie: And if I'm not up for it, I'm just not going to plan the food. Because you [00:19:00] do kind of have to be up for it. And I want you to know that that's a normal part of the process. eat more and I'm like, I get what you're saying, but I, but I have to be willing to do that work and be like, I get what you're saying, because it was really good, [00:19:10] but more is not better and you're about to take this great experience and ruin it, so we're not going to do that, and we can have it again another time.

[00:19:15] Maggie: That's what always makes me feel like. There's no panic here. [00:19:20] You have anything else to add there?

[00:19:22] Ryan: Uh, I, I think it's not like it's, after practicing, it's not like this, uh, academy that you [00:19:30] graduate from and you're, you've got it figured out too. Yeah. Like it's, it's something you have to constantly be aware of and maintain.

[00:19:38] Ryan: You do

[00:19:38] Maggie: have to maintain. It is like the [00:19:40] muscle.

[00:19:40] Ryan: Yeah.

[00:19:41] Maggie: So if you get the muscle, you can maintain the muscle, but if you completely stop using it and things just start to get slippery and you just start eating and then you're overeating and then all of a sudden the relationship with the [00:19:50] food you thought had got better maybe is not what it used to be, you just kind of have to recondition that and then maintain it by staying aware and that's why I still like planning what I'm gonna eat.

[00:19:59] Maggie: It's like, [00:20:00]

[00:20:00] Ryan: Yeah, if you want to maintain your muscles, you have to tell them, hey, we need to use these.

[00:20:03] Maggie: Yeah.

[00:20:04] Ryan: It's the same. Maybe

[00:20:04] Maggie: not as hard as we did initially, but we can't stop using. There's a purpose for having

[00:20:08] Ryan: these because we're going to [00:20:10] be moving the weights.

[00:20:11] Maggie: Yeah.

[00:20:11] Ryan: So you need to stay here because we need you.

[00:20:13] Ryan: Yeah. You know,

[00:20:14] Maggie: you don't just like get the muscle and then you're like, cool, I got it. And that's what people do when they're losing weight. They're like, cool, I got it. Yeah. And then [00:20:20] they just stop everything and start doing something completely different. And they're like, gain my weight back. It's like, yeah, because you stopped, you didn't get to that point where you could maintain the mindset and maintain the habits.

[00:20:29] Maggie: Yeah. [00:20:30] For sure. Okay, so it's normal for it to taste so good. It's normal for you not to want to stop when it tastes so good. Those thoughts are normal. Those feelings are normal. [00:20:40] So validate them instead of, again, being so upset that you want more. Like, you're an adult. You can experience frustration in your body.

[00:20:47] Maggie: I know it doesn't feel great. [00:20:50] That's that moment where you have to have those hard conversations where you're like, I promise you, you think there's more pleasure here. There isn't.

[00:20:56] Ryan: Yeah.

[00:20:58] Maggie: Like, it's, you're being told a lie [00:21:00] from your brain at that point. It's like dopamine, dopamine, dopamine, you're like, there's no more.

[00:21:03] Maggie: We got it already. There's no more pleasure being released from this experience. We can do it again another time. [00:21:10] Okay, there's got to be that time where you come down from like eating foods that are hyper palatable So pleasurable, you know Condensed down especially [00:21:20] stuff like sugar, you know If you've been

[00:21:23] Ryan: trying to

[00:21:26] Maggie: lose weight but haven't found a way of eating that you can stick to You've got to [00:21:30] join Vibe Club.

[00:21:30] Maggie: It's my monthly coaching program where I teach you how to lose weight in a way that you actually enjoy, so you can stop obsessing over food and your weight forever. No matter how busy or stressed you are, [00:21:40] even if you feel like now is not the time to lose weight, Vibe Club is for you. All materials and call recordings are stored on the member website.

[00:21:46] Maggie: We even have a members only podcast so you can listen to everything on the go. [00:21:50] Go to VibeWithMaggie. com to learn more.

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